A comfortable chair, music, cushions or pillows and a glass of water or milk will help you relax.
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Mothers have been breastfeeding their babies since time immemorial, and each nursing mother and child discover their own style. This section will guide you step by step, explaining what to do so your child nurses properly and effectively. A person trained in breastfeeding can provide help if you need it.
Pick the right time (signs of hunger)
It’s hard to get a baby who is upset or crying to nurse. As soon as you see signs that your baby is hungry, offer her your breast (see Hunger signs). That way she’ll be more patient and cooperative, especially if it takes a couple of tries to latch on.
Find a comfortable position
Give yourself plenty of time for your first breastfeeding sessions. Take a few minutes to make sure you’re comfortably settled. There are various positions, so choose the one that feels best for you: cradle, cross-cradle, football or lying down. Whichever you choose, your baby’s whole body is turned toward your breast, with her ear, shoulder and hip forming a straight line.
With a newborn, the cross-cradle position offers two advantages: it allows you to properly support your baby and to clearly see how she latches on (see picture below). Many mothers find it useful during the first weeks of breastfeeding.
In this position, the baby rests on the arm opposite the breast she is nursing from. If you are nursing from the right breast, you support your baby with your left arm.
Photos: Cécile Fortin
Photo: René Dery
Hold your baby in place against your breast by supporting his bottom with your forearm.
Your fingers, with the exception of the thumb, should support the weight of your baby’s head in a way that still allows for some freedom of movement. The palm of your left hand should be placed beneath his shoulder blades, not behind the head (as shown in the photos).
Avoid putting pressure on the head with your fingers or the palm of your hand. Babies don’t seem to like this. They draw their heads back and some may have difficulty latching back on. If this happens, readjust your position.
Hold your right breast with your right hand. Your thumb should rest on the outer site of the breast and the other fingers on the inner side, far from the nipple and areola, forming a “U” (see pictures in the next section).
Photo: Jean-Claude Mercier
Breastfeeding while lying down is enjoyable and can promote rest (see picture page 425). Most mothers really like this position once latching on becomes easier. If you tend to doze or sleep while nursing, follow the recommendations on page Sleeping safely to make sure your baby stays safe.
Photo: Jean-Claude Mercier
Photo: Jean-Claude Mercier
Whether you choose a seated or reclining position, make sure that your baby latches on to more than just the nipple; she should also be taking much of the areola, adjacent to the nipple, in her mouth.
If your baby reaches for the breast at this point, her hands may end up in her mouth before your breast does. If this happens, ask the child’s father or someone else close to you to gently hold the baby’s hands. As soon as she latches on and starts sucking, you’ll see her hands relax.
You’ll need to coordinate your movements with that of the baby as she opens her mouth. It’s the baby who latches onto the breast, but you must bring her close to it at the right moment. You’ll be more comfortable if you don’t lean toward the child.
With your help, your baby will learn how to latch on and will soon be almost able to do it alone.
During your baby’s early weeks, feeling the breast near her mouth stimulates the sucking reflex. If your child sees your breast but doesn’t sense it against her face, she will probably not open her mouth very wide. Bringing her close enough so her chin grazes your breast will probably make her open her mouth more willingly.
Photos: Jean-Claude Mercier
How to bring your baby to your breast
Once both of you are settled, you’re ready to bring your baby to your breast:
- When her chin touches your breast, gently brush your nipple against her upper lip.
- Wait till she opens her mouth wide, as if she were going to yawn or take a bite out of a large apple.
- At this point, quickly bring your baby to the breast, supporting her shoulder blades with the palm of your hand:
- Her head should be tilted backwards just a tiny bit.
- Her lower lip should touch your breast first, with the nipple very near the upper lip.
- Your nipple should point toward her palate, not her tongue.
During the first few days, you may have to start over several times to get your baby to latch on properly. She might sometimes close her mouth partially or completely before getting to the breast. This can be painful for you. Latching on takes a little time in the beginning. But with practice, your baby will learn and everything will become easier.
When your baby latches onto your breast, and not only the nipple, he will have a large part of the areola in his mouth. This makes it easier to get milk.
If the baby sucks mainly on the nipple, painful cracks may result and he will get less milk. Some babies will then ask to nurse more often, which will irritate the nipples even more. Others will get tired and fall asleep before they’re full.
Signs of a good latch:
- The baby’s mouth is wide open.
- He latches onto not only the nipple only but also a large part of the areola.
- His lips are curled outward.
- His lower lip covers a larger part of the areola than the top lip does. If needed, gently press your breast to reveal the lips.
- His chin touches your breast and his nose is free.
- You can hear or see him swallow.
If you experience painful nipples, try to improve the latch. Nursing shouldn’t be painful. Latching on properly is the key to pain-free nursing!
Photo: Marie-Josée Santerre
Latching on shouldn’t be painful for you.
If you feel pain, try bringing the baby to your breast again. You can also try to improve the latch. In some cases, you can gently lower your baby’s chin to reposition his lower lip once he’s nursing. If that doesn’t work or pain persists, contact someone trained in breastfeeding.
When your baby sucks effectively, you can see motion in the jaw. When she first starts to nurse, the movements are quick and light. As milk starts flowing, the movements become slower and deeper. You can see and hear your baby swallow.
If your baby’s breathing is noisy during nursing, free up her nose by pressing her bottom against you to bring her chin closer to your breast. Don’t worry, she won’t suffocate. If she has trouble breathing she will release the breast. In some cases, you might need to press gently on your breast with your finger to free up her nose.
Breaking the suction
Photos: Marie-Josée Santerre
It’s important to break the suction properly when removing your baby from your breast, to avoid hurting your nipples. To break the suction
- Put your finger in the corner of your baby’s mouth between the gums, if needed.
- The nipple will release easily once the suction is correctly broken.
Areola: Darker area of the breast around the nipple.