Becoming a father means learning a new role, one that begins during pregnancy and lasts a lifetime. It is a major change that brings great joys—and great challenges!
Your experience of becoming a father may vary depending on your situation (see Emotional changes). Preparation for the baby’s arrival can also vary from person to person, even within the couple. Talking to your partner about your respective expectations and concerns can help your couple adjust to these new realities.
After the delivery, your life as a parent truly begins. You will ease into your new role and learn to take care of your baby day by day as you spend more time with her.
At first, your daily routine may feel like it’s been turned upside down. Schedules are all over the place, the house is a mess, you’re trying to get your bearings as a couple, and nothing is the same as before. It’s normal—most new parents go through this phase. The adjustment period may last a few months for some, or a few years for others.
Talking with other dads
If you have the chance, take time to chat with other dads. They’ve been there. Hearing about their experiences can do you good and help get you through the tougher moments. Talking to someone other than your partner can also help you better understand what you’re going through.
Some fathers may experience a period of depression after the birth of a baby (see Depression). If this happens to you, don’t hesitate to seek help right away. If this happens to you, don’t hesitate to seek help right away.