Trusting yourself as a parent
“Am I doing the right thing when my child cries?” “Am I giving them enough stimulation?” Lots of parents have these kinds of questions. There’s no one‑size‑fits‑all answer for every situation or for every child. You’ll have to trust your instincts and do your best.
Your role as a parent will evolve at each stage of your child’s life. You’ll constantly have new things to learn and new questions to ask yourself. Being a parent is about trying, making mistakes, and trying again. Don’t get discouraged. It’s normal to feel awkward and unsure and to doubt your abilities. Admitting to your struggles is also part of being a good role model for your child.
Remember that all new parents go through an adjustment period. Having a child is a big change.
Many parents feel pressure from family and friends or the images and messages they see in the media. Social media, in particular, can make it hard not to compare your family to others. Trust yourself and set realistic expectations based on your situation and your resources.
Talking to other parents
If you have the opportunity, take the time to talk to other parents, but without comparing yourself. They are going through, or have been through, the same thing. Hearing their stories can reassure you, ease your stress, and help you get through tough times. They can provide some perspective on your own experiences and help you find solutions when problems arise (see Support).
Just like every child, every parent is different. There’s no magic formula for raising a child. Trust yourself.
