Parenting with a disability
When people with disabilities become parents, they must deal with the obstacles they already know, but in the context of their new parenting role. They need to continue caring for themselves while also taking care of their little one.
Caring for a baby (e.g., changing diapers, bathing) can be challenging at the best of times. As a parent with a disability, you may find certain tasks even more difficult or tiring because of the physical effort required.
It’s normal if you are unable to do all the same activities as other parents. Your child will adapt to your abilities and come to see them as a part of everyday life. Despite the limitations you face, you will be able to provide your child with everything they need.
Adapting to everyday life
When it comes to caring for your baby, it’s good to organize your environment to suit your specific condition. For example, to make diaper changes less physically demanding, you could set up multiple changing stations at home.
Baby equipment specially designed for parents with disabilities (e.g., adapted cribs) also exists. Depending on your situation, you may or may not need this type of equipment. You can try it before you buy it to see if it works for you.
Before visiting a new place, prepare ahead of time so you know how you will access it with your child. Getting around with your baby can be an additional challenge (e.g., attaching a car seat to a stroller). You’ll have to adapt your activities based on how accessible places are.
Don’t hesitate to skip nonessential everyday tasks when you’re too tired or in pain. Every parent should pay attention to signs of fatigue, but this may be even more important for you. You will gradually get to know your abilities as a parent.
When your child starts to be mobile, they’ll want to explore their surroundings. The most important thing is to make sure their environment is safe. Then you can then let them explore at their own pace. This will help your child develop their independence.
Support
Having the support of a co‑parent or loved ones is important. For parents with a disability, this support can help you rest when you need to and provide a solution in situations where you can’t be with your child. You’ll learn how to team up and work together with the people around you.
You may want to talk to parents who have the same disability as you. You can contact your CLSC to find out about resources in your area.
If you need help, you can also consult:
Clinique Parents Plus du Centre de réadaptation Lucie‑Bruneau, a specialized public clinic for parents with physical
disabilities. They offer assessments and adapted equipment to help them care independently for their baby.
514-527-4527
ciusss-centresudmtl.gouv.qc.ca/soins-et-services/deficience-physique/clinique-parents-plus (website in French only).