Becoming a mother
Becoming a mother means taking on a new role in addition to those you already had (e.g., occupational role, spousal role). In the first few years of your baby’s life, your role as a mother will likely take up a lot of your time. Eventually, you’ll figure out how to balance your different roles. This often takes a few years.
For mothers who have given birth, motherhood often comes with mood swings in the first few days and weeks. This is known as the baby blues (see Baby blues). If these mood and behavioural changes last for more than two weeks, talk to your doctor (see Depression). Your mental health is important for both you and your baby.
It’s completely normal to feel overwhelmed at first. You’re going through a lot of changes, and you have to adjust. Mothers often feel stressed about being a parent. They find that life is moving fast and they don’t have enough time—or arms! They also tend to put a lot of pressure on themselves to be a “good mother.”
If this happens to you, postpone tasks that can wait and don’t be afraid to ask your co‑parent or loved ones for help. Clearly state your needs and expectations. It is normal to need support (see Support).
New mothers who are overwhelmed by the task of caring for their baby often lose sight of their own well‑being. Don’t neglect your own needs: it’s important to eat well and get enough rest. You’ll find it easier to care for your baby if your own needs are met.
Over the months and years, you’ll get to know your personality as a mother and gain a better understanding of what’s important to you. You may not identify with society’s image of a “good mother.” Remember that you’re the “good mother” for your child, and that you have your own needs and personality.
It’s healthy to assert your needs, set boundaries, and take care of yourself, not just as a mother, but in all your roles.